Van Der Woude Quotes

#1. Social support is not the same as merely being in the presence of others. The critical issue is reciprocity: being truly heard and seen by the people around us, feeling that we are held in someone else's mind and heart. For our physiology to calm down, heal, and grow we need a visceral feeling of safety. No doctor can write a prescription for friendship and love: These are complex and hard-earned capacities. #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#2. Psychiatry, as a subspecialty of medicine, aspires to define mental illness as precisely as, let's say, cancer of the pancreas, or streptococcal infection of the lungs. However, given the complexity of mind, brain, and human attachment systems, we have not come even close to achieving that sort of precision. Understanding what is "wrong" with people currently is more a question of the mind-set of the practitioner (and of what insurance companies will pay for) than of verifiable, objective facts. #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#3. Prior to the advent of brain, there was no color and no sound in the universe, nor was there any flavor or aroma and probably little sense and no feeling or emotion. Before brains the universe was also free of pain and anxiety. - Roger Sperry1 #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#4. In our society the most common traumas in women and children occur at the hands of their parents or intimate partners. Child abuse, molestation, and domestic violence all are inflicted by people who are supposed to love you. That knocks out the most important protection against being traumatized: being sheltered by the people you love. If the people whom you naturally turn to for care and protection terrify or reject you, you learn to shut down and to ignore what you feel. #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#5. Our utilitarian structures will mature into architecture only when, through their fulfillment of function, they become carriers of the will of the age. #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#6. Create form out of the nature of the task with the means of our time. This is our work. #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#7. If you look at a building by Mies van der Rohe, it might look very simple, but up close, the sheer quality of construction, materials and thought are inspirational. #Quote by David Chipperfield

#8. Reinforced concrete buildings are by nature skeletal buildings. No noodles nor armoured turrets. A construction of girders that carry the weight, and walls that carry no weight. That is to say, buildings consisting of skin and bones. #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#9. We have to know that life cannot be changed by us. It will be changed. But not by us. We can only guide the things that can cause physical change. #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#10. While trauma keeps us dumbfounded, the path out of it is paved with words, carefully assembled, piece by piece, until the whole story can be revealed. #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#11. deity moments
are monumental
but not for a mortal
so my devoted
ask of you
to never beg for any man
you are your own wildflower
wild and free
in your devotion to
finally, only you
and you forevermore #Quote by M.M. Van Der Reijden

#12. A visionary company is like a great work of art. Think of Michelangelo's scenes from Genesis on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel or his statue of David. Think of a great and enduring novel like Huckleberry Finn or Crime and Punishment. Think of Beethoven's Ninth Symphony or Shakespeare's Henry V. Think of a beautifully designed building, like the masterpieces of Frank Lloyd Wright or Ludwig Mies van der Rohe. You can't point to any one single item that makes the whole thing work; it's the entire work - all the pieces working together to create an overall effect - that leads to enduring greatness. #Quote by John C. Maxwell

#13. Learning to observe and tolerate your physical reactions is a prerequisite for safely revisiting the past. If you cannot tolerate what you are feeling right now, opening up the past will only compound the misery and retraumatize you further. #Quote by Dr. Bessel Van Der Kolk

#14. What economists and political scientists today call the "rational choice of individuals," but what Smith called "the individual pursuit of happiness," leads according to this view in a mechanical way to general welfare. As Alexander Pope in his Essay on Man put it: "true Self Love and Social are the same." While this is the foundation of liberal capitalism, Marx's dialectical materialism is not different in its selection of the economy as the prime mover. In this way the economy becomes the most important purpose of society. Fortunately, the economy has laws of causation, or, at least, that is what economists would like us to believe. Statistics are gathered to provide an objectified view of reality that enables social engineering. The individual and the collective are simultaneously put in an economic framework that is secular not in the sense that it is nonreligious, since individuals can rationally pursue religious ends, but in the sense that a God-given order of society has been replaced by an order that is constantly produced by homo economicus" (p. 41). #Quote by Peter Van Der Veer

#15. was fascinated to learn that a group of neuroscientists at the University of Geneva25 had induced similar out-of-body experiences by delivering mild electric current to a specific spot in the brain, the temporal parietal junction. In one patient this produced a sensation that she was hanging from the ceiling, looking down at her body; in another it induced an eerie feeling that someone was standing behind her. This research confirms what our patients tell us: that the self can be detached from the body and live a phantom existence on its own. Similarly, #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#16. [The] Japanese were a people in a profound, inverse, reverse, or if I preferred it, even perverse sense, more in love with death than living. #Quote by Sir Laurens Van Der Post

#17. In a profound sense every man has two halves to his being; he is not one person so much as two persons trying to act in unison. I believe that in the heart of each human being there is something which I can only describe as a child of darkness who is equal and complementary to the more obvious child of light. #Quote by Laurens Van Der Post

#18. How did his brain come to derive comfort from fishing rather than from compulsive sexual behavior? At this point we simply don't know. Neurofeedback changes brain connectivity patterns; the mind follows by creating new patterns of engagement. #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#19. I do not oppose form, but only form as a goal. #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#20. The greatest sources of our suffering are the lies we tell ourselves. #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#21. I am pretty sarcastic and pretty dry. #Quote by Anneliese Van Der Pol

#22. A baby is a small member of the home that makes love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, the bank roll smaller, the home happier, the clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the future worth living for. - Laurens van der Post and Jane Taylor #Quote by David Jeremiah

#23. Memories of traumatic experiences may not be primarily retrieved as narratives. Our own and others' research has suggested that PTSD traumatized people's difficulties with putting memories into words are reflected in actual changes in brain activity.
(van der Kolk, Hopper & Osterman, 2001)
Trauma and Cognitive Science, Chapter 1 #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#24. I see in industrialization the central problem of building in our time. If we succeed in carrying out this industrialization, the social, economic, technical, and also artistic problems will be readily solved. #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#25. A major problem for survivors is that their sense of self is too restricted and rigid within dissociative parts, because it has been derived from a range of experiences and action systems that is too limited, and excludes too much of the survivor's history. When survivors are unable to bind actions adequately with a sense of self in the moment, they experience symptoms of depersonalization. #Quote by Onno Van Der Hart

#26. We have to rethink the way we light our cities. We have to think again about light as a default solution. Why are all these motorways permanently lit? Is it really needed? Can we maybe be much more selective and create better environments that also benefit from darkness? Can we be more gentle with light? #Quote by Rogier Van Der Heide

#27. As the natural coherence of the world vanishes, there's a guilt that grows great and angry in the basement of our beings. #Quote by Laurens Van Der Post

#28. Kaka beat Fletcher to the ball, and headed it past Heinze as the Argentine sought to close him down. Heinze could still have dealt with the problem, but, inexplicably, Patrice Evra came flying in like a runaway TGV. Heinze was flattened, Fletcher was so shocked that he stopped to rubber-neck, and Kaka strolled on and rolled the ball past Van der Sar. Evra's nightmare of a half continued when he crazily got himself cautioned for dissent, so removing Ferguson's one remaining first-choice defender from the away leg. Madness. #Quote by Henry Winter

#29. Dissociation, in a general sense, refers to a rigid separation of parts of experiences, including somatic experiences, consciousness, affects, perception, identity, and memory. When there is a structural dissociation, each of the dissociated self-states has at least a rudimentary sense of "I" (Van der Hart et al., 2004). In my view, all of the environmentally based "psychopathology" or problems in living can be seen through this lens. #Quote by Elizabeth F. Howell

#30. I think it's important to know what you're going to do with the ball before it comes to you. So you're always thinking before hand and when the ball comes to you to can make the pass straight away. #Quote by Rafael Van Der Vaart

#31. It is no use working with other architects. What can they do? Who does what? #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#32. I've only dyed my hair blond once, after 'Varsity Blues.' #Quote by James Van Der Beek

#33. I always try to enjoy the game. It is easy to say but it's true. Every game is different, sometimes you feel better inside you but you have to enjoy your game. #Quote by Rafael Van Der Vaart

#34. It's the not-yet in the now, the taste of the fruit that does not-yet exist, hanging the blossom on the bough. #Quote by Laurens Van Der Post

#35. It is not that something different is seen, but that one sees differently. It is as though the spatial act of seeing were changed by a new dimension. - Carl Jung I #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#36. The educating of the parents is really the education of the child children tend to live what is unlived in the parents, so it is vital that parents should be aware of their inferior, their dark side, and should press on getting to know themselves. #Quote by Laurens Van Der Post

#37. True ambition is the desire to work harder for yourself than somebody else #Quote by Yuri Van Der Sluis

#38. If you're still in it, it's hard to talk about it. I wasn't able to attach in the way that you need to attach and open up in the way that you need to open up in order to have any type of relationship with a therapist." This was a stunning revelation: So many patients are in and out of treatment, unable to meaningfully connect because they are still "in it." Of course, when people don't know who they are, they can't possibly see the reality of the people around them. #Quote by Bessel A. Van Der Kolk

#39. Man is never alone. Acknowledged or unacknowledged, that which dreams through him is always there to support him from within. #Quote by Laurens Van Der Post

#40. [The official prosecutors] ... were more vengeful on behalf of our injuries than I myself could ever be. #Quote by Sir Laurens Van Der Post

#41. I woke up on the plane this morning and was turning on my phone and I had to put my pin number in. That's when I realized that since the age of 10 I've been using 2012 as my pin number. But now that I've won gold in the 2012 Olympics, I've achieved that goal and, for the first time in 14 years, I'll have to change my pin. #Quote by Cameron Van Der Burgh

#42. God dwells in the details. #Quote by Ludwig Mies Van Der Rohe

#43. Mies van der Rohe's architecture and modern architecture in general suffered from not only being repetitive, but not explaining to the populous what the different rooms were for. #Quote by Charles Jencks

#44. Human beings are perhaps never more frightening than when they are convinced beyond doubt that they are right. #Quote by Laurens Van Der Post

#45. If you start thinking about stats it can get too complicated and you just have to go out there and play your game. #Quote by Rafael Van Der Vaart

#46. With our cynicism, created by years of insecurity, how did we look on men? We judged the salesmen in the van der Weyden by the companies they represented, their ability to offer us concessions. Knowing such men, having access to the services they offered, and being flattered by them that we were not ordinary customers paying the full price or having to take our place in the queue, we thought we had mastered the world. #Quote by V.S. Naipaul